Everything I learned about leadership I learned from my mother

Everything I learned about leadership I learned from my motzu sichEverything I learned about leadership I learned from my motherMy Mum is quite petite, gentle, and very Scottish. No drill sergeant or geschftliches miteinander card that read Household CEO, she welches way more than just a mother. She was my first leader. I realize from my earliest days until today, almost every leadership lesson I needed to learn she taught me.Servant leadershipBooks have been written about Servant Leadership and big-ticket speeches were given but from my earliest memories, I saw my Mother live the very tenants of Servant Leadership. Mum built a home of warmth and love where I felt secure enough to risk striking out on my own but knew that I had a soft distributionspolitik to which I could always return. I knew that no matter what, I could always depend on her. She modeled what it meant to be a great mother, wife, daughter, and sister.Teams need to feel connected and team members empowered to take a r isk but know that you have their back if it doesnt always go according to plan. Team members also need to know what behaviors are acceptable and what good looks like.Ladders is now on SmartNewsDownload the SmartNews app and add the Ladders channel to read the latest career news and advice wherever you go.HumilityMaybe this was one of the tougher lessons for me to learn. My parents were visiting our home in Kansas when a massive storm blew through. I arrived home to find our backyard flooded and totally upended. My Dad, Husband, and Mother were beavering away trying to fix the damage. Im not sure exactly what I did when I showed up but my Mum threw her hands in the air and yelled, Stop. Good news. Managements hereBeing the boss doesnt mean you have to have all the answers or always be the one in control A little gratitude and acknowledgment of the hard work of others can go a long way. Letting others take the lead at times build their confidence and sets an important example of humbl e leadership.AccountabilityI was a really good kid and rarely got into trouble but I knew if I broke the rules or disappointed in some way, it was going to be dealt with. The rules and expectations were clear. In my senior year, my classmates and I were going out for a farewell dinner. My Mum told me she didnt want me drinking at the event. I went. I didnt drink and I was not a happy camper. Looking back on it now, it was good advice. Yet if I had had a drink my Mum wouldnt have known.Accountability cuts two ways. The first way is that when there are rules and expectations, there have to be consequences if there is a miss. But the second most important element to accountability is that people choose to step up and do the right thing and hold themselves accountable even if it might be easier to let things slide.CommitmentMy Mum married the man who was to be my Dad over 63 years ago. Ive observed the ebb and flow of their marriage. There was more smooth than rough, but as in any marri age, there were some challenges. I never for a moment saw my Mum flinch from that commitment she had made for better or worse. I love watching them together now, as she still laughs at all his old jokes even when she hears them from the umpteenth time.Team members value the stability of knowing where you stand and that when the going gets tough they can count on you to have their backs, stick with it and work it through. This doesnt mean that the tough conversations dont happen. They do. Im not nave enough to think all relationships whether business or personal work out but I know I have to work hard and commit to the best possible outcome.Always be open to learningWhen Facebook came into its own, my Mum took it on She realized that through Facebook, even though she was some 5,000 miles away, she could casually stay connected with what the boys and I were up to. She had never owned a computer and had nothing fancier than a flip phone. In her mid-70s she got her first p.c. and some 5 years later a smartphone. Unafraid to ask for help and lean into the technology, she fast became my number one Facebook stalker.Leaders who have nothing to learn show up totally closed off. When you stop learning you stop growing. No matter how far along you may be in your career, you need to stay open to learning new skills, new ways of doing things, and new technologies. It can open up a whole new world for you.CelebrateMums always been good at celebrating, but I saw it reach epic proportions when she became a grandmother. Watching her with my boys, I saw her celebrate every little victory and accomplishment even if it wasnt quite perfect. They knew they had no bigger cheerleader than their Nanny. Her celebrating gave them the confidence to always strive even against the biggest challenges. Having her cheer and making her proud was a driver in itself.We often get so caught up in what lies ahead that we forget to celebrate accomplishments. Demonstrating pride in what others achiev e provides recognition and incentive to continue to do well.So to my Mum and all the mothers out there, Happy Mothers Day. Perhaps without even knowing it, you teach leadership better than anyone else in the worldLinda Adams is a Leadership Development expert and co-founder of the Trispective Group. he is the co-author of The Loyalist Team How Trust, Candor, and Authenticity Create Great Organizations. For more information, or to take a free team snapshot assessment, please visit, www.trispectivegroup.com.